They say, "Arrange Marriage? How much do you know him?"

I have seen and experienced longest relationships breaking instantaneously. I have come to realize that to 'Make a relationship', it is the maturity of two minds that matters.

Wonderful thing about a relationship is that even 1 mature mind and 1 averagely mature mind can take the relationship to the next level. Compatibility is in our hands - it is the calmness, stability and sanity of our mind which attempts to comprehend our partner's viewpoint.

So instead of looking for someone who thinks like you, have an approach to understand his viewpoint and then decide if it is something which culturally fits well into yours.

You may be meeting and having a banter with your friends for years, but can you really spend your lifetime with any 1 of them? Forget about not seeing them that way. Just give it a thought, is there any person with whom you can spend your whole life with? If there is, you should be right now approaching him/her and if not, ask the big WHY?

Years really do not matter so much but certain logical moments do. You can never know a person for the longest time, but what is essential is the basics of the person is right. If problem is in the root of the tree, the fruits would only look beautiful but would not sweet taste once you bite them.

To sum it up, I would rather respect and appreciate the liberty of decision my parents have rest upon me, but would not act childish by setting unrealistic expectations and taking forever to commit to a guy.

Written by Vrushali Deshpande