You cannot show me how to love !

Despite the attempts of making a relationship work, sometimes you vent out a concealed complaint and ruin this conscious effort. It is true one can give up the bad habits; one can alter a wrong behavior to improvise, but one cannot learn how to love. Love is the only feeling that comes from within and cannot be manipulated. You can tell someone where they go wrong; you can tell them what hurts you, bothers you, but you cannot tell them how to love you.

Reciprocation in form of prolonged numbness to your expectations creates a deep void within you and you feel more helpless than incomplete. Bizarre a relationship becomes when you realize you are not letting a person love you the way he wants to love you. Despite the wisdom and maturity you occasionally attempt to understand his way of loving you, you realize his ways are more a result of conscious effort and misses a great deal of natural reaction.

There would not be a conscious effort to make things work if there was no love. I know the love prevails, and guess a time comes when you have to just accept that everyone have their ways to love you. The age old forwards carried for a long time a line which stands true and while I did not understand its relevance as a teenager, I do now– “Just because someone does not love you the way you want them to, does not mean they do not love you at all with all they have”

Written by Vrushali Deshpande