Secret of a Tough Woman

In past, the story started with “Once upon a time in a kingdom far, far away, there lived a princess waiting expectantly for her prince, who of course comes to her rescue in his shining armour astride a white horse, upon which they both ride into the sunset and to a place called Happily Ever After.”

It was not long ago that women dreamt of men coming to rescue them and eloping them onto a white horse; however, things may have changed just a little for quite a few of them. A contemporary story in the present scenario shall start with “Once upon a time there was a princess and along came a prince who asked her if she would like ride on his white horse. She said, ‘I cannot right now because I am a little busy getting my own horse. Go ride off into the sunset without me and I will catch up a little later so then we can ride side by side.”

I am not a feminist and thus I do not intend to convey that women are perfectly capable enough of taking care of themselves and they do not fancy romance or love in their life. They indeed do; and that’s why the princess in the contemporary story insists to ride side by side. The dependency factor or reliance curve on the man has shifted a little down for a woman who is not a working girl necessarily, but who is an ambitious working girl aiming to make it big. There is also quite a huge difference in terms of personality traits between a girl who just works to earn a living and a girl who works because she dreams to make it big eventually.

The latter appears strong, determined, independent, mature and resilient but yet deep down within her is a woman who is waiting for a man to fill the void. She’s been too strong on her inherently sensitive heart and to survive the competitively dominant male society, she expresses more strength than she ever holds. When before the love of her life, this contemporary woman often gets confused between the woman in her and the traits she had to imbibe in her to survive fierce competition. - A personality crisis of some sort.

The stronger a woman appears to be; the more sensitive her heart is. It is to conceal this sensitivity that she wears the mask and eventually this mask absorbs into her as one of the part of her overall personality. This heart has an infinite capacity to love, which is one of the most beautiful things about being the way she. This woman of contemporary can forgive you so easily that you would second guess the crime you committed on her heart.

While you find this complication a bit difficult to handle in the start; the only way to break through all of this is to only love her unconditionally.

Written by Vrushali Deshpande