Extremes give birth to Extremes

Relationship in my opinion is a state involving mutual dealings between people. Every relationship is formed for a need. A person's upbringing plays a pivotal in the evolution of this need and the processing takes place at a very subconscious level. The base for the formation of friendship is like mindedness - some quality in the person we can relate to. Once the comfort level establishes, the business of give and take is at its peak. A relationship between friends can be for support, dependency, security.

The concept of expecting something in return need not be looked at as an inferior step towards a relationship. Human beings are selfish in nature and at some point of time in their relationship they are bound to express their wants and desires. In a situation, one party may choose to do all the listening, while the other could be estranged to the whole idea of affiliation. In such a case, the listening party shows symptom of low self esteem. However, if the same person's self esteem is pretty high elsewhere, then such behaviour is due to high level of insecurity the person has towards the relationship. Sooner or later, he will release his frustration in some way or the other. This is most often done directly on the party causing pain. Or some may choose to release it on parents, friends and even better would be to pen down their thoughts.

What then could be the want of the listening party? The want is a justifiable reason for such rejection. A stubborn person with a high self esteem will explore all possibilities of digging the reason for such rejection. In the course of solving the mystery, the person may end up doing a lot of analysis about the relationship, the behaviour of other person involved, and there are high chances of either hating this person or falling deeply in love with this person causing pain. Any one of the two can be only confirmed over a period of time.

This is primarily why extremes give birth to extremes.