Relationships are not complicated. We make them complicated !

Love is not only about seeing the rosy picture in a relationship and expect butterflies to fly around you, but also about the will to accept and tackle the challenges in a relationship. People come from different backgrounds and set of thinking and each individual has a perspective to things he has experienced in life. Relationships are not complicated; but it is a union of two people who come together from completely different set of thinking.

It is funny that in 27 years of my life, I have encountered most people who want to run away from the challenges in hope to find someone who would only be goodie-goodie all their life. Are you really thinking that is possible? Best part about being with someone who has his opinion is that you learn something more than you already know. You see a different way of looking at a thing, but with it would come the challenge of clashing opinions and this should not impact the foundation of the relationship.

Beauty of a relationship is when you are able to ‘+’ someone’s ‘-‘. Two people in a relationship should growth together and understand each other rather than discarding right away. It is pertinent to have a flexible mentality and without which, one would not be able to accept another. Why do we really expect people to be like us? Or say things to us which we will only like to hear? Would not we be then expecting them to be robots, the remote control for which is in our hands?

You grow up not when you make good money and progress in your career; you grow up when you are able to accept that every person is different and escapism from this would only invite more such circumstances in your life. It is not important sometimes to change the other; it is sometimes most important to change ourselves.

Written by Vrushali Deshpande

Just some thoughts...

Being emotional makes some take advantage, being practical makes some think you are a strong woman and when you strike the balance between the two, they say you are good with 'Words'.

Fortunate thing for a writer is he or she can express his or her genuine feelings in words. Ironically, some term those genuine feelings as word play :)

Some poet said, "When you WOW on my writings, i do not know how to react, because what i wrote is what i felt and what i felt was not good."

Today a girl's exposure in career is also a reason for some guys to say, "I feel you are too polished for me, I feel inferiority complex when with you." Julia Roberts said in Notting hill, "At the end of the day, I am still a normal girl, waiting for a guy to love her."

A girl who seems mentally strong requires a 'Man' who can decipher her sensitivity. It is important for a Man to make her feel, "I am around and you are safe with me."

It is simple to get blinded when you are around glamor, but the true test of your character is when you value and live the simplicity of life after seeing too much dazzle and glitter around you.

They say, Google is a man's best friend. I say, Words are!

Knowingly and unknowingly I have hurt people, but when the same happens with me, I have no right to say, "Shit happens"

Chivalry is not in pulling the chair for a girl in the restaurant or opening the door of the car for her to get in. Chivalry is in simply respecting her, without having the need to say it.

-- by Vrushali Deshpande