Who am I really?

I live in a country where mental compatibility may not be as important as horoscope compatibility. I live with a family which does not believe in the latter and it is fine. I live with neighbors of relation who believe in keeping fast in the name of God, but I live with a family who does not believe starving is a way to God. I hang around with friends who have extreme say on both. My books, learnings and experiences have taught me that being practical is a way to life. Have belief in yourself more than anyhing else in life. And with this I become a composite of a confused culture. Who am I really?

It is said that what we are is because of our upbringing, our values imbibed within us by our parents; what we make of ourselves is because of the people we meet in life; the friends we make, the books we read, the media we are exposed to and the experiences we have. All in all, it is challenging to sort your mind out and develop individuality within yourself.

If you are sensitive, the world would not be quite good to your emotions and thus, you wear a shield all the time to defend yourself. In the process of wearing the shield for the longest time, it becomes automatically a part of your personality. Who am I really? A sensitive girl who would once get hurt easily or a woman whose first impression in everyone’s mind is ‘strong personality’?

It is not important to classify ourselves into X and Y. It is not important to carve out that we believe in X and not in Y. It is not always important to be so judgmental about ourselves. It is important that the base of our being – our conscience, our soul does not feel we are doing wrong. It is important to be a good human than being anything else.

Who got hurt more in a break-up?

Who got hurt more in a break-up? There is probably no wrong question to ask in a relationship than this one. Often we think we suffered through the worse and in the process we neglect the agonies of our partner. A broken relationship may shock you a little longer, but it does not change the love you have for them. It is important to respect the one you love despite laying on the ashes of a broken bond. It is not love if one storm or probably several such can transform your emotions towards them. Love is love when it is constant; permanent and eternal. To love someone does not mean you have to possess them. As long as the emotion of respect thrives within you, God is in it.

Written by Vrushali Deshpande

Acceptance: A key to a successful bond

When there is a gap between what we expect from people and what they give to us, we encourage complaints to creep in. Expressing your dissatisfied thought in form of a complaint never really makes the person reciprocate positively on it. It is important to tell them what we desire, but it is not important to tell them what they do not provide to us.

I meet a lot of people everyday in life. I hear their opinions, ideologies and I realize how different each one is from me. What may seem just so right to me may be completely wrong to another and vice versa. Often relationships are complicated when we impose our beliefs on someone who has had his individual learnings from life.

Written by Vrushali Deshpande